I found this video a week or so ago, and it frustrates me on many accounts, and also brings up some contradictory ideals of the so called feminist movement.
my first frustration is that they have decided to call the 'damsel in distress' character a victimization of women because they guy has to come in and save her. WHAT? Last time i looked, victimization was when a woman was being abused by a man, or attacked by a man, not SAVED by one. Victimization incurs the idea of violence directed toward a woman, that is not the case in the damsel in distress character. The damsel in distress scenario is a character who is generally so highly regarded that the male character will do everything and anything in his power to save her, to get her back, and to protect her. There is nothing weak about the damsel in distress, but there is a strength and grace that draws the man to do the impossible and the ferociously dangerous just to get her back and keep her alive. Why would any woman in her right mind be angered by this kind of power over a man?
On the same topic, To honor a woman by fighting for her, has been a time honored tradition of chivalry, devotion, and honor. To take this act, and squash it as highly inappropriate and evil is to say that honorable men who respect their wives, girlfriends, sisters, etc are bad people who victimize the women in their lives. Can anyone else see how this could lend a hand in the many broken relationships and divorces we have in this world?
Regardless of what feminist agendas preach, I have never met a girl or woman who hasn't swooned over the White Knight who sweeps in and saves them at their lowest moment. Every female wants a guy who will fight with her, or for her, they want a guy they can feel safe with. If a guy is afraid to fight for her for the sake of victimizing her, the White Knight is knocked off his horse before he even has a chance.
On mixed messages to the Male characters in our lives. A few weeks ago, I was at a club with some girlfriends for a bachelorette party, At the club, i looked at all these women dancing, and grinding with this random group of guys who were 'dancing' with every solo girl in the club. Here, these women were willing to let guys hang on them, neck them, grind on them, just for a good time. It was repulsive. These women were allowing guys to disrespect them and treat them like meat, just so they could have a good time at the bar. That is sending a mixed message to men. We want you to respect us and treat us as equals, but by all means, get your sexual fantasy out on the dance floor with us for a couple hours. Again to prove my previous point of the White Knight, about half way through the night, we met a guy outside who joined our party, he danced WITH us, not ON us, and when the creeps who just wanted to hump your leg like little lost puppies came around he would pull you over and dance with you and get between you and the creeps. At the end of the night back at the hotel, HE was the guy we were all talking about, he was the guy the entire party thought was great, Creeepy leg humper guys, well, that's exactly what we thought of them, pigs with poor attitudes toward women, but seriously, how can we blame them for their bad behavior and view of women, when women go to the club and allow that behavior and willing join in it?
Ladies, don't be afraid of the guy who would give his life for you, this is not victimization, this is honor and respect, the two things every girl wants from her guy. Be wary of the man who treats you like a sex toy for the price of a rum and coke, If you want to find a target for your victimization argument and anger, direct it toward those guys. On behalf of every woman out there who wants a respectful guy to honor her dignity, please, i beg you, don't victimize the valiant men who still exist. Give Chivalry a chance!
Your thoughts?
